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THE BREAD THING recipe and instructions

Recipe Ideas from Jays n Dees – The Bread Thing

The Bread Thing recipe and instructions. We at jaysndees absolutely love food. So much, that occasionally we will come up with a new idea or improvement on an existing one to satisfy the needs and hungers that occur with Our Family of 6 people – 4 of whom, are growing people. When we find almost perfection to something we have cooked up, it will be shared here.
So read on to find out how to make a super yummy The Bread Thing!

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Basic Information:

History/inspiration. This particular dish that is known as The Bread Thing in our family was randomly thought up not too many months ago now, drawing inspiration from consecutive cold wet nights, a few too many drinks, and also some fond memories of when my (D1) deceased dad used to talk of some of the foods he ate growing up- one of those being a whole loaf of bread, ripping the guts out of it, and stuffing it with chips and gravy.
Basic dish information. Although there is not a vast amount of veggies to be found in this dish, it does go well when complimented with a side of nice fresh veg.
There is not much to the dish, but there is a decent amount of preparation work that goes into it.
Cooking style – Pot/Pan, frypan, bbq, slowcooker, etc. BBQ or oven; we only use a bbq for it though, except the mac and cheese, veg, and bacon. We use a pot for these on a gas cooker.
Preparation Time. First time with the dish, expect and allow for about half an hour.
Cooking Time. We allow about 45 minutes for this part. Remember that this includes the initial preheat of the loaf too.
Serves. Serves 2 adults and 4 children, aged between 12 and 2, with enough left over for a lunch or major snack the next day.

INGREDIENTS:

jaysndees The Bread Thing recipe Ingredients
  • 1 x 800g loaf white toasty bread; unsliced. Preparation required.
  • 1 x fresh roasted bbq chicken. Preparation required.
  • 250g bacon pieces. Preparation required. (not shown in image)
  • 1 – 1 1/2 cups grated/shredded cheese.
  • 2 slices of fake cheese (cheese slices).
  • 1 x sachet mac and cheese.
  • 1 x 250mL sachet traditional gravy microwaveable (or make your own equivalent).
  • 1/2 cup frozen veg (winter veg or peas,corn,carrot). Preparation required.
  • 1 heaped tablespoon of crushed/minced/paste garlic.
  • 1 teaspoon crushed ginger.
  • Garlic and Herb seasoning (shaker type).
  • “Everything” seasoning (shaker type).
  • Salt and Pepper. We use pink Himalayan salt, and whole black peppercorns, both in grinders.
  • 1 teaspoon Sugar (we use raw sugar).
  • BBQ sauce. Try smoky bbq sauce for an interesting variation!
  • Sweet Chilli Sauce.
  • Approx 75g Butter/Margarine. We use salted butter.

UTENSILS:

  • 1 or 2 tupperware type containers
  • Cutting knife, fork, spoon
  • Measuring implements – cup, tablespoon, teaspoon
  • Stirring spoon or similar
  • Small pot
  • Shallow tray with suitable space for the loaf and the top to sit comfortably
  • Piece of baking paper to line tray
  • Microwave safe container/cup
  • Microwave
  • BBQ (or oven)
  • Cooktop for pots/pans

PREPARATION:

– All initial tasks – measuring, weighing, scooping, guestimating, cutting, chopping, grinding, maiming, etc.
– Other initial food preparations – preheats, pre cooks, etc

  • Preheat BBQ/oven to between 150-180 degrees celsius. We use a 4 burner BBQ, and only ignite the two outermost burners on high.
  • Fully shred bbq chook. We usually remove all of the skin first and set it aside in a corner of a tupperware container. Then we take off the legs and wings, putting them aside on a plate. After that we will strip off all of the major flesh components- breast meat, back meat, etc, until we have reclaimed all of the usable meat. Put all of it on the plate with the legs and wings. Finally we will harvest any stuffing (seasoning) from inside the chook, and put it in the container with the skin. Now to shred the meat – piece by piece off the plate, we use a fork to shred the flesh, placing it in the container as we go. Remove any gristle, bone, and other undesirable parts during this process.
    Once it has been shredded, we add our sauces over the top and give it a quick hand mix.
  • Prepare the bread loaf. Cut about 2cm off the bread top, the whole length of the loaf. Remove all inners, leaving around 1.5cm on the walls and 1cm on the floor. Press the top, walls and floor firm, WITHOUT BREAKING the loaf!
    Once preheat is complete, it is safe to put loaf in, use baking paper on a shallow tray, put the loaf and top on the tray, and place it in the centre of the BBQ for 10-15 minutes, or until the internals are starting to get a feel of toast.
  • Melt butter in microwave on high for 1 minute in a microwave safe cup. When done, mix in the garlic, ginger, and herbs, and stir very well until everything is blended in consistently. Set aside until ready to use.
  • Cook Mac and Cheese with the frozen veg + sugar on a stovetop. Follow the directions on the mac and cheese packet for cooking. Set aside until ready to use.
  • Heat bacon pieces in a shallow pan on stovetop. Stir regularly on a medium/high heat for 3-5 minutes, until it smells like nicely cooking bacon. Set aside until ready to use.
  • Make or heat the gravy, follow packet instructions if using microwave gravy. This is usually high heat for 1 minute. Set aside until ready to use.
  • Prepare cheeses as necessary. Break sliced cheese into 5 strips per slice. Set aside until ready to use.

METHOD:

The how to do step-by-steps
This section assumes that the bread loaf frame has just finished the initial warm up and is fresh out of the BBQ.

  • Take the main loaf and place it on a firm surface. Proceed to spread your garlic butter over each of the walls of the loaf- rotating the loaf as you do so. We prefer to use a spoon for this rather than a butter knife, as it is easier to grab a spoonful to spread and deposit the mixture to where it is needed. Apply liberally so that it looks nice and moist on all of the walls. Once complete, proceed to rub more of the mixture over the floor of the bread loaf.
    Remember to keep your current working section on a firm surface to prevent breakage of the walls of the loaf.
    By the end of the main part of the loaf, you should have only about a quarter of the garlic butter mixture left. Coat the inside toasted part of the top piece with the remaining butter mixture.
  • Now it is the time to assemble The Bread Thing.
    Make sure to gently spread and pack each layer as you go.

Once it is done cooking, remove from the heat and stand to cool for about 5 minutes. This also helps the external shell to finish hardening to make for easier cutting.


– Floor: Mac and Cheese + veg layer. Cover the entire floor.
– Chicken layer. Make sure this layer is a decent thickness, but do not pack it to a smooth layer.
– Bacon layer. Fill up all of the random depression areas you created on the previous layer.
– Cheese layer. Provide a nice thick layer of the grated/shredded cheese, up to 5-6mm thick. Gently press.

– Gravy layer. Use a generous amount to mostly cover the cheese.

– Stuffing/Seasoning layer (optional). Break apart the stuffing and sprinkle the entire amount across the cheese and gravy layering.

– Bacon layer. A nice quick sprinkle layer with a minor firming press.
– Chicken layer. Add a slim layer over the top of the mac and cheese.
– Mac and Cheese + veg layer. This layer will use the rest of your mac and cheese and veg. Spread even and firm.

– Sliced cheese layer. Add on this layer as an angled crosshatch vision.

– Chicken layer. Add all the remaining shredded chicken across this layer. Do not pack down this layer.
– Gravy layer. Pour out all remaining gravy. Ensure to top up any low spots in the chicken with the mix.
– Shredded cheese and bacon layer. Mix together and spread out over the previous layer. Gently firm down evenly.
– Final layer: Chicken skin over the entire top. Add a crack of salt and pepper over the top.

– ADD THE LID ON THE TOP NOW.

Put the final construction back into the BBQ, and heat for between 20-25 minutes, or until the shredded cheese is melty looking. Yes, this will require you to lift the lid of the loaf, but no big deal. Also, remember to turn the tray at least once whilst it is cooking.

When ready to serve, slice the loaf without the top on so that you can properly support the sidewalls as the knife is drawn through. Slice the top also to make extra garlic bread.

EXTRA INFORMATION:

..extraPara/closing statements, etc
The J2 Plate:
Our J2 does not like gravy. I know, what a weirdo, right? Anyway, we make up a special deconstructed version of the bread thing dish just for him. It is literally everything except the gravy, separated. Also, he gets bones, as we give him a drumstick and wing that was pulled off the chook at the beginning. We do not remove the skin or anything beforehand.
At least he is still happy to enjoy the dinner with the rest of us!
For his garlic bread, we simply cut a couple of slices off the inners we removed, and load them up with some of the garlic butter concoction. Easy, crustless garlic bread!


DISCLAIMER

Whilst all due care is taken with writing out this recipe, we cannot accomodate for any food allergies or intolerances. You as the reader are however, more than welcome, to provide a comment of such as to how you overcome and/or substitute ingredients, methods, or otherwise, to provide YOUR PERFECT VARIATION OF THIS PARTICULAR DISH!
We welcome any and all feedbacks, comments, criticisms, or suggestions.
All images are copyright and the property of jaysndees.

Additional Information:

VARIATIONS:
  • Use fresh crushed garlic for a little extra blast of flavour in the dish.
  • Add chilli if you really want to – we recommend fresh sliced jalapenos. Just make sure to add a bit more milk to the mac and cheese to balance out the heat. If you are not concerned about heat, then by all means, use some carolina reaper sauce over the chicken in place of the sweet chilli sauce! Warning though – IT WILL BE VERY HOT! (Not suitable for children AT ALL!)
  • Add more variety of veg – some salad, a bean mix, capsicums, etc. This gives a nice colour too when done properly.
    The next time I (D1) make The Bread Thing, I will add these veggie variations and update this post with the photo.
  • Pepperoni/salami/kabana always works great as an extra, as does ground beef (mince). Just remember to prepare these before adding into the final construction method (cook, peel, etc)

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Cloud Mining Experiment in 2024

Cloud Mining Experiments in 2024 to weed out the scams

LAST UPDATED: Sunday 17th March 2024

We are going to perform a cloud mining experiment in 2024. In 2023 we got scammed by cloud mining. We lost close to 0.02 BTC, which at the time was worth $600 USD. We did have a mostly complete draft post with all of the details. It was never actually posted live for some reason. It was we feel, invaluable information into what to look for in a scam.
In 2024, we will be continuing our cloud mining adventures, albeit with serious restrictions. This is namely the *free* way. There should be no reason to pay to have the ability to withdraw.

Our true intention of this experiment, is to find any potential gems whilst using different chains, and earn a little bit of cryptocurrency too.

Example 1: MiningBun.com

First up, is an interesting little mining operation that gives BNB as the reward.

We have provided the cloud mining system with an address that is not actively used, and in fact, generated only for this specific purpose.
The website is called, “miningbun.com“.
There is no referral link at this point, as this is in a testing and experimental stage. We will be testing the system until withdraw possibility, and then judging it accordingly.

experiment example 1 image 3 showing signup incentive.

We were supposed to receive $10 of BNB, but are yet to receive this. At this time, we are unsure if this is an automatic event, or one that we have to manually initiate from somewhere.

cloud mining experiment example 1 image 1 showing basic dashboard.

So we put our address in, it would only accept a BSC (Binance Smart Chain) network address, and not a proper BNB address. I (D1) personally found a little bit strange, however, I am optimistic, and still learning about contracts, and consider this an actual proper contract to be fulfilled and executed on the Binance Coin (BNB) once the contract has been fulfilled i.e. when I withdraw after the minimum of the contract (0.005 BNB, but then also include the fee of 0.00007 BNB) equal to 0.00507 BNB.
On the day this post was made, 1 BNB is equal to $322.89 USD. 0.005 BNB is around $1.61 USD.

In theory, I should be able to withdraw at around 50 days of starting, so we will see how it goes. This post will be updated as progress is made.

experiment example 1 image 2 showing withdrawal dashboard.

This was initially posted on 11 Feb.


Example 2: Block Hunter

Our next cloud mining experiment in 2024 to mention is one that does payouts in BTC.
The name of this service is known as Block Hunter. The website address is “blockhunter.eu“.

experiment example 2 image 1 showing the homepage.

As a signup bonus, new users are given a free 900 GH/s hashing power.

cloud mining experiment example 2 image 2 showing main user dashboard.

There is a minimum required of 0.0001 BTC for the payout, with additional withdrawal fees of 0.00015 BTC.

experiment example 2 image 4 showing withdrawal dashboard.

According to the overview on the dashboard, it may take only a month until we can see if we are able to perform our withdrawal from this platform.

experiment example 2 image 3 showing live overview dashboard.

This was initially posted on 12 Feb.


Example 3: AutoHashMining

Another experiment we will look into is AutoHashMining. The website is “autohashmining.com“.

experiment example 3 image 1 showing main website.

This platform allows mining and withdrawal in multiple different currencies, including Bitcoin BTC, Litecoin LTC, Ethereum ETH, Dash, Ripple, and more.
There are minimum withdrawal limits as stated on their FAQ. We are choosing this platform for LTC, the minimum will be $1.10 USD. Interestingly, there are no fees according to the same FAQ.

cloud mining experiment example 3 image 2 showing main user dashboard.

When signing up as a new user, we got 200 GH/s free mining which expires in 199 days, and we also got $0.02, which is available as an LTC equivalent in withdrawal.

experiment example 3 image 3 showing free mining plan.

It is important to note that although it states an amount of $2.00 as a purchased mining contract, we have not actually paid anything for this particular plan.

This was initially posted on 12 Feb.


Example 4: TrxDeepMiner

For this example, we are testing out TrxDeepMiner. The website is “TrxDeepMiner“.

experiment example 4 image 1 showing main website.

Although they accept deposits and withdrawals in a number of cryptocurrencies, they only allow mining in Tron TRX.
We are testing this platform with Litecoin LTC.

cloud mining experiment example 4 image 2 showing main user dashboard.

When signing up as a new user we got 100 GH/s on the free mining plan which will expire in 199 days, and we were also credited with $0.01 in our account balance, which will be available as part of our Litecoin withdrawal.

experiment example 4 image 3 showing free mining plan.

It should be noted here that it has an amount of $1.00 spent. We have not input anything into this platform.

This was initially posted on 12 Feb.


Example 5: LegitDogeMining

For this next example of our cloud mining experiment in 2024 we will be sampling LegitDogeMining. The website is “LegitDogeMining“.

experiment example 5 image 1 showing main website.

This platform mines Dogecoin, and pays out in a variety of cryptocurrencies. We will be utilising Doge payouts when they become available.

cloud mining experiment example 5 image 4 showing main user dashboard.

When signing up as a new user we got 100 DH/s on the free mining plan which will expire in 200 days, and we were also credited with $0.05 in our account balance, which will be available as part of our Dogecoin withdrawal.

experiment example 5 image 2 showing free mining plan.

It is important to note that although it states an amount of $1.00 as a purchased mining contract, we have not actually paid anything for this particular plan.

This platform claims no fees for deposits or withdrawals. There are minimum amounts associated with withdrawal starting at $2.00 for Dogecoin and Litecoin payments.

This was initially posted on 17 Feb.


Example 6: LitecoinPool

At the time of posting this particular cloudmining service, we had been signed up for a bit over 1.5 days. This is another free service that was found, and so we thought to give it a try. This testing platform is LitecoinPool. Their website is found at “LitecoinPool“.

experiment example 6 image 1 showing main page.

With no direct ‘sign up’ button, we were a little confused on how to begin, but with a quick check of all the info, we found that all we needed to do to activate an account was to use our email or LTC wallet address and create a password after clicking on the ‘Start Mining’ button.

According to the FAQ, there is a minimum 0.1LTC withdrawal amount, but no information as to whether or not there are fees associated with the withdrawal too.
Another item of interest noted in the FAQ, is that all the investment plans run for 365 days. For the moment we will assume this also includes the free plans.

experiment example 6 image 4 showing frequently asked questions.

At the current free plan of 0.0008LTC per day, this is going to take 125 days of operational cloud miner.
0.1 / 0.0008 = 125.

cloud mining experiment example 6 image 2 showing main user dashboard.

This was initially posted on 17 March.


Example 7: MineThrive

We recently saw this one, and had to give the Free tier a try to see what it was all about. The website is “MineThrive“.

experiment example 7 image 1 showing main page.

At the time of writing, they did have some promotional activities running. The limited offer, and the free bonus.

experiment example 7 image 2 showing promos.

Our free power is already waiting, and we can invite more people to this to “higher your Bitcoin Mining Rate.”. **CRINGE**

Whilst we are not going to go into much detail with this one, there is still some screenshots to look at and remember.

cloud mining experiment example 7 image 3 showing main user dashboard.

Sadly, it looks like our initial perceptions are deemed true. For this particular free cloudmining experiment, according to the FAQ, “free” is not actually free.. In fact, it will cost at minimum 0.0004BTC at time of writing. That doesn’t include any of the poor souls you refer to this one.. Check out the first section, and then peruse over the other parts.

experiment example 7 image 4 showing faq.

There will be no more updates to this particular experiment. We are calling it a SCAM.

This was initially posted on 24 March.



March 2024 Update:

As it has rolled into a fresh month, we thought about posting an update to each of the sites mentioned above..
We will do it in the same order as they were posted.

Example 1: MiningBun.com

Firstly, we will mention that we still haven’t received the $10BNB reward. Not off to a positive start for this one at all.
Next item worth mentioning, is the message that appeared at the top of our dashboard. It stated that “You have 1 free TH/s until the end of 2024-03-02”. As it is now towards the end of the day of the 2nd March, we logged in to the platform.

As we were logging in, we noticed an interesting item in the Latest Transactions – an apparent withdrawal of 0.00184BNB performed. The minimum is supposed to be 0.005BNB.

Sure enough, our free mining operation has come to a halt. 0.002BNB. Still, as there was that previous mentioned amount in the transactions list, we thought we would try anyway to withdraw..
..Nope..

As we never received the $10BNB, and the expired free miner, and the bogus transaction that was listed, we are considering MiningBun.com a SCAM.


Example 2: Block Hunter

We gave the blockhunter.eu site numerous chances to come back online, but it appears to be a SCAM.


Example 3: AutoHashMining

Not much to report on this one, except that the free miner still appears to be operational at this point.


Example 4: TrxDeepMiner

There is not much to report on TrxDeepMiner at this point, except that the free mining process is seemingly still operational.


Example 5: LegitDogeMining

This free mining platform appears to be properly functioning from what we can observe.



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jaysndees Our Year of 2024

…and what is in store for Us.


G’dmorning. G’day. G’devening..
Wherever you are reading this from, we would like to welcome you with Us, and more specifically, what is in store for us, and jaysndees our year of 2024.

We are Jays n Dees. Still completely functionally dysfunctional, and still a happily complete Party of 6 consisting of myself (D1), my Gorgeous wife (D2), and our adorably bonkers children, J1, J2, J3 and J4.
It may be a little obvious as to why we are jaysndees, but just incase, it is because we are a bunch of jays and dees. And ultimately, there will be a little of all of Us throughout this blog, and in fact, the website as a whole.

Progressively, as time permits, we would like to improve on our online presence, from building the blog up into a wholesome family oriented blog, to filling up our e-store with all sorts of our ideas.

Throughout the course of jaysndees our year of 2024, we will be sharing some aspects of our life with you. As always, we will simply be known as D1, D2, J1, J2, J3, J4, or jaysndees.
These details will primarily revolve around family projects, family happenings, crypto, and well, just life. We will build and share coupons for our e-store, create from our ideas, and take on all feedback.

We do have a number of major projects for undertaking throughout the year, and without giving too much away I will briefly mention just just a few:

  • 80 Series Landcruiser projects – engine, body, extras
  • quad bike revive – been through floods, untouched for many years prior
  • Our produce gardens
  • go-kart project with J1 and J2
  • Cryptocurrency and online earning
  • * a list of ambition more than a kilometre long *

Stay Tuned!

So cheers to the year that is ahead of two-four.
Hope you like and enjoy all that we have here in store for you!

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Let’s make some money in 2024!

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To date, we have been paid every month, including this January of 2024. We will provide our current snapshot of earnings, inclusive of the entire 2023 earnings, to get you back up to speed with how we are progressing.

Setting Up

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The 2nd thing, is to have a minimum of $5.00 in your earnings at the end of the month to be paid. Whilst $5.00 is the minimum, there is also no maximum for the month. You are paid every cent of your earnings.

If you need assistance with setting up your account, tips and tricks, or anything like that, feel free to contact us using our form, or ask the question here as a comment.

Now for the important bits – where do we earn these regular payments from?
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We got a bit slack

As we lost a lot of focus with our blog in 2023 towards the end of the year, some of those earnings didn’t get posted to the 2023 version of this blog post. However, all of the earnings that we have accumulated to date will be posted here as a summary. Once we receive more payments, they will be added to this blog post as an update.
Payments for the month of earnings are punctually paid on either the 1st or the 2nd of the new month.
So our January 2024 earnings were recently paid, on the 1st Feb 2024. February earnings will be paid out in early March, etc.

That is USD$363.00. At the time of writing on 7th May 2024, 1USD is equavalent to 1.51AUD. So this would be approximately AUD$547.85. Yes, we have been paid every cent. Here is the list of payments to our paypal account also.

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Watch Out For Your Teen Behaviour

A Teen Behaviour Post that all parents should read.

We would like to share a story of knowledge and education, especially for us (D1(myself) and D2) as first time parents for those teenage years, and more specifically, the transition into the first year and beyond of secondary schooling, for our child, J1. This is intended to share knowledge and insight, so that someone else may be able to Watch Out For Your Teen Behaviour.

A Brief Introduction.

For us here in Queensland, Australia, the move into year 7 last year involved handing over an M1 Macbook Air (or a laptop reaching similar abilities), to our child for the purposes of their education. We could have been supplied one by the school at a nominal fee, we however chose to go the BYOD (Bring Your Own Device) route instead.
Also for the purposes of their independence, and to allow communication between J1 and Us, and also the friends, we supplied a Samsung mobile phone. This was politely given to us for this purpose from a close relative with a heart of gold.
This was on top of the access to his own ipad which he has been able to use since before he was 2.

We have other rules also for the ipads, etc, such as not during school weeks, only a certain amount of time maximum per day, completed chores, and things like that.

Setting up the Contract and Boundaries.

D2 and myself created up a contract for J1, in relation to the technology. We went through every single line of it with him, and sat there to explain everything, as simply as possible, and to a level understood by J1. We know it was absorbed cleanly, as this kid is a superhero with reading stuff, and being able to spit it back in your face 10 years later, word for word. He can tell you about books that haven’t been touched by him for ages and about conversations had years prior, and this is becoming very apparent as we see his interactions with the twins, J3 and J4.

Back to the unfolding story..
This contract (linked HERE), which I will also post in this story for any future ideas from other parents (without any personally identifiable information of course!), was very clear, with all the added verbal explanations, from Our point of view. We had it on lockdown – or so we thought..

Anyway, J1 had commenced the first year of high school and all was seemingly going great. He had make plenty of new friends, grown stronger with some of his old mates from that awkward year 6 time, and just generally been great at adapting. His grades were good and consistent, and his teachers spoke highly of him at the couple of parent/teacher interviews we attended.

Noticing Change and the checks We started.

We are not certain when it started, but somewhere in the early 2nd half of the year, there was more attention paid to the grumpy morning boy who seemingly couldn’t ever get enough sleep.
On top of that, the devices never seemingly needed to be charged as often. (As a rule, and as part of the contract, they were to be charged in the parents main area, as also applies to the ipads for all of our J clan)

We felt that maybe it was time that we had a look into the matter. After all, we did put it into his contract regarding our ability to do checks of this nature.
So the searches began..
Uncovered during this time, was lots of attempts at downloading Windows based installers for games, vast amounts of late night Youtube videos of bug wars, a large amount of online game histories, and lots of anime porn.
On top of this, were the hidden games disguised (renamed by J1) to resemble innocent sounding files – “School”, and “Stuff”, among others.
Also was the deleted items. Files of various natures simply disposed of into the Trash.

Effectively, nearly all of the contract rules were broken.

..denial – Part 1.

So he was shown what we had found. Initially, there was complete denial. The excuses like, “I don’t know how that got there”, and, “I don’t even know what that is” flooded at us. Finally, after much explanation that searches for specific items yield specific results, and the browser and computer logs showing it had indeed been done whilst the device was in his possession, we were able to obtain the actual truth.

For all of this, we then commenced active blocking of games sites, and anything else we could think of via the modem. I will supply this list in this post (linked HERE). We also put into effect more strict rules. The laptop and phone was to be handed back to us at the end of each school day, and we started to properly implement the services of the Family Link apps.

Now we were back on course.
With a head full of knowledge on how that sort of stuff, including the blatant lying, can affect the lives of not just him, but also us, as parents, and as a family, we settled back into the proper routines of school and home life.

Ears pricked to alertness.

It was around September I think, when we received a call from the deputy principal of the school..
We were informed that our child quite possibly had video footage of a fight that had occurred on the school grounds. A meeting was set up with Us, J1, and the deputy principal present.
It was then, that we were informed, of a much more serious situation that our child had become entangled in.
It seems that him and his girlfriend had been exchanging nudie pix, and her grandma had seen them and called the school. With the texts that we were shown, it was most certainly a two sided event, even though it was only the multiple sentence responses that we were shown. All of the girls texts had been deleted out of the conversation, presumably by herself or her grandmother, presumably to proclaim innocence. She was a grade above J1, but they are both under the age of consent in the eyes of the law, so those pictures exchanged were indeed child porn. With the phone account in D2’s name, needless to say, we were very highly concerned about the matter.

So we confiscated the phone. And we went through it. Sure enough, our boy had sort of saved himself a little by saving a couple of the pictures he was sent. So it wasn’t just him sending explicit images, it was both of them. But at the same time, he had also used his own shovel to dig his own grave by deleting all of the conversations with the girlfriend. And the ones between his mates, most of them were trashed too.

Massive Information Loading.

When he got home from school that day, there was a very big talk about this entire situation, from the initial video recording of the fight (which in reality was just a hug and scuffle between 2 of his mates), right up to the reason for the meeting with the deputy principal. For starters, he had broken our contract again.
Then there was the fact that both of them had been distributing child porn, because essentially, in the eyes of the law, that is what it is.
He was made very aware that there was still a very real possibility of the police coming to talk to him about the matter, and also it would likely affect D2, as she is the owner of the account of the phone. For an adult, these things usually lead to jail time, even if it isn’t physically in the adults possession, it is still in the possession of an account that the adult is responsible for. Then there was the talks of the Sex Offender Registry, where it would likely be that we would each end up on there for something as simple as this. The full consequences of what this would mean for him as he approached young adulthood and beyond was also explained.

Drastic Measures

Then came the punishment. We didn’t want anything like this, so that phone was deleted, scrubbed, deleted, and scrubbed again, and then it was set up as a “dumb phone”. No camera, no access to google searches or anything like that, no ability to save or view images or videos, you name it, we removed it. All it can do, even to this day, is make phone calls. Oh, and the calculator still works. And if necessary, at any moment, we can lock the phone completely via the Family Link app. If he comes to us asking for permission for a specific image or file we are able to approve or deny it with relative ease.
During the remainder of the school term, J1 did not have a phone. Nor for most of the end of year holidays. For such a serious breach of our trust, again, there had to be very firm consequences. In a way, it was his jail time.

As for the outcome, thankfully, neither the grandmother, the police, nor the school took any further action. It was all dealt with in a sensible manner, because as with everything, there is always two sides to the story.

That is the main lesson to learn I guess. Once you get through all the initial lies and explanations, the truth does come out. And it is important that they learn to trust what you as parents do with the truth. Be firm, but be fair. This is especially true for households that contain multiple children.

Preparing For The Future

Going into a new school year, we have had numerous more conversations about things like this, and have also had our sex talk with him. The one that involves respecting people and their bodies, especially your own. We also made it extremely clear, that although we have supplied an entire box of them for him, there really is no need to go out and rush into anything where he will need them, but we have made it known to him that he has a box of condoms available for him. They have a super long expiry date, so like we said, no rush.

Putting our trust in him, is also him putting his trust in Us.

..Watch Out For Your Teen Behaviour..


Uh Oh!

As an update after the first school week, the unimaginable happened..
I was initiating some updates for the macbook on sunday evening after all of the Jays had been put to bed and noticed that there was a game installer (Minecraft Education) still mounted on the device. I know it wasn’t there prior to this, as the previous weekend i had also been performing updates to get it ready for the new school year.
Anyway, J1 was queried as to why it was there, and sure enough, I had left it in the downloads last year. He had just tried installing it, even regardless of the “No Games” policy.
I opened the Safari History in his account, and all these sites were visible in the account. Multiple games sites, numerous ‘Chat with..” AI chatbot pages, and also, you guessed it, porn of varying natures. Oh, and there was also the new email accounts he had created..
This kid was immediately woken up and kicked out of bed, and asked to explain his actions.
He didn’t have access to the laptop on the days in question, as they were the weekend days. He was however, able to use his ipad during these times. And that was what he had been doing.. hiding out in his room looking up all of this garbage.
Fortunately his devices are on the same account, and sync. And he does not have account privileges to delete any of the information from any of the devices.

Small Truths

When asked as to what he was doing, he did admit to doing the wrong thing. When asked why, especially due to all the recent happenings and talks we had just recently had, his answer was that he didn’t know why, but he was disgusted with it. We queried him if that was the case on every occasion, and yes, he apparently was. When asked why he kept on doing it then, his response was that he didn’t know.
So we started asking him about his awareness of the dangers of (ab)using devices and technology as a whole. About how it can endanger our entire family, and things like that.
His demonstrations of his awareness was… unsettling for want of a better word..
Whilst he does know about things that could happen, there seemed to be a little bit of an “I don’t care” or “immunity” response about it. Take for example, Us pointing out that all of his younger siblings are in almost the same area as him when he was doing all of this stuff. His response was that they were not in the same room as him at the time.

More Groundwork and Punishments

Once we were almost done with our conversation with him, the talk was steered towards punishment.
So now he gets to commence, for the foreseeable future, his punishments.
This includes the phone, macbook, and ipad.
He has been completely banned from using ipads for a long time. And when he is finally allowed to use them again, it will only ever be under direct supervision. No more hiding out in his room with it. That will be a permanent thing..
Also, will be only very limited internet access. We understand that it is needed for the purposes of school and hobby research, and that is all that will be allowed. There will be no video sites accessible without permissions being granted, no access to those AI chatbots, and there will be daily checks, whenever it is used.
The phone will need to be handed back to us again at the end of each school day, and of a weekend, it will not be in his possession. He will be allowed to check it and respond a few times a day, but that is all.
The macbook is only for school, and it too will be handed back to us each and every day. It can get packed for school, along with the phone, of a morning as we are walking out the door to take them there.
Also off the table are things like sleepovers with mates and all of that stuff.
And there will be lots more outside time, both during the day and also the evening, each and every single day moving forward.

Parental Guidance Thoughts

D2 and myself had a bit of a chat about it after we sent him back off to bed.
More so, what we could try to get him back on the right track again. We have established some ideas of erotic novels, and maybe even some super softcore adult oriented magazines.
He will even need to read any and all articles we find that involve discussions regarding pornography addictions.
It is completely normal to have desires, and in fact, it is encouraged. When it is of a clean and acceptable nature.
However, when it crosses a line to endanger and potentially expose the younger ones to it, well before their time, something drastic has to be done.
And there is no need at all for a soon to be teenager seeking out porn online of any nature, nor for them to enter into any adult oriented chats or activities.

Its a long way back to the top..
..Watch Out For Your Teen Behaviour..



As a sidenote, here is the extra information we are providing.

THE CONTRACT:


First Mobile Device Contract

I, _(insert child name)_, understand that using these mobile devices (phone, ipad, laptop) is a privilege, not a right. In order to be permitted to enjoy this privilege, I agree to the following:

I Understand..

[_] The devices belong to my parents, they are not mine. And they may take it away or look at it at anytime.
[_] My parents are trusting me to be responsible and look after the devices to the best of my abilities, trying my best not to lose or break any of them.
[_] There are restrictions in place on the devices and lock out times are between 9pm and 6am on school nights.
[_] There may be adjustments made to this agreement as needed, while we all learn and adjust to child device usage.
These will be noted down as new information points under the appropriate section, and all parties will be informed.

I will..

[_] Keep the devices charged.
[_] Share my chosen passwords with my parents.
[_] Use the devices in a responsible manner.
[_] Answer when my parents call or text. If I miss their call, I will call them back as soon as I discover they have tried to contact me.
[_] Ask before downloading apps or games.
[_] Notify my parents IMMEDIATELY if I receive or discover anything inappropriate.

I will not..

[_] Delete, or attempt to delete, anything on the devices.
[_] Use devices during family meals.
[_] Participate in bullying or rude behaviour, or use unkind language. If I wouldn’t say it in person I will not send it.
[_] Use any of the devices to take inappropriate photos or videos of myself or others. This includes anything you’d be embarrassed to show your parents, grandparents, or teachers.
[_] Use the phone during school, unless needing to contact a parent. The phone is to remain in the schoolbag on silent or vibrate mode only.
[_] Complain if my parents ask to see the phone.
[_] Adjust any settings without permission.
[_] Share my number with strangers.
[_] Answer or respond to texts or calls from unknown numbers. And I will let my parents know if any unknown numbers do attempt to contact me.
[_] Bug my parents to put games on the devices.


_______________________________________________
Child’s signature


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Mum’s signature


_______________________________________________
Dad’s signature


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Date


Blocked Websites:

Games related sites (more will be added as we research them):

  • addictinggames.com
  • agame.com
  • aiwigame.com
  • arkadium.com
  • asia.wargaming.net
  • craftnite.io
  • crazygames.com
  • fog.com
  • freegames.org
  • freeonlinegames.com
  • gamaverse.com
  • gamearter.com
  • games.aarp.org
  • gamesgames.com
  • kirka.io
  • kizi.com
  • klook.com
  • lagged.com
  • new.gg
  • parade.com
  • playbelline.com
  • poki.com
  • shellshock.io
  • shellshockerss.co
  • twoplayergames.org
  • ufreegames.com
  • wargamer.com
  • warthunder.com
  • wellgames.com
  • worldofwarplanes.com
  • worldofwarships.asia
  • yad.com
  • yandex.com

Other blocked sites (more will be added as we research them):

  • youtube.com (direct supervision only)
  • talkie-ai.com